Last week, I got one of the best e-mails ever from my dear friend, T. I wanted to post it here because she hit the proverbial nail on the head – in the way a dude can hit a nail, just twice, and BOOM – perfect! That was T and her words, painting a picture of who she would wish for me.
From T –
So I was thinking about it tonight- if I could wish for you your perfect man, here’s what I would imagine:
Musical enough to play something, but not even close to good enough to have delusions of grandeur about making money off it. Mostly, he sings songs he writes for you and your kids, and maybe the elderly neighbor on her birthday.
Loves animals. Has a dog to play with Huck.
Believes in women’s rights. Would never want to abort his kid, but would never want a woman to have her options denied by law. Is okay with liking pink, staying home to raise the kids for a few years, and teaching his daughter how to throw a punch. Avoids strip clubs & porn and other female-objectification as a general rule.
Has a small, ugly tattoo that he regrets (shows that he can learn from mistakes and admit when he was wrong). Laughs about this tattoo, and is having you help him brainstorm a creative, beautiful design to cover it.
Likes to read.
Likes to work out & eat healthy in general, because he is respectful & appreciative of his body. Yours too. But he also knows that sometimes wine & pizza on the couch is better for your soul than tofu.
Respects his mom. Even likes her most days.
Is less emotional than you. Face it. This is a good balance, probably. But it doesn’t mean he doesn’t understand emotions in general. He doesn’t clam up if you cry. He wipes your tears. He cries too, just not as easily.
Never puts you in a bad position. Never makes you lie, cheat, or steal to cover for him. Unless you are bridge partners.
Can change a tire and benchpress more than he weighs.
Makes you laugh, knows you are smart, and knows that he is lucky to have you. He is confident enough to know that you are lucky to have him too, but he always puts in a little extra effort to keep it that way. He doesn’t take you for granted, and he recognizes that life is better since he met you.
That is my wish for you, Erin. Oh- and also, nice teeth and kind eyes.
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