Monday afternoon – it starts. The story you are about to hear is true. The names have been changed to protect the innocent. Well, my name wasn’t changed…obviously…
Madonna [1:53 PM]: men are shady
Uh-oh…she had started dating a good looking foreign doctor recently. What’s going on???
Maureen [1:55 PM]: why do you say that? problems with the good doctor?
Madonna [1:55 PM]: so i just find out from Dr. Guy that he is having relationship turmoil issues with a girl he was with once and can’t live without because he loves her. HELLO! i thought we talked about this the first day. honestly I’m done
There really isn’t a good response to that – so, I say…
Maureen [1:56 PM]: wow
I can see Madonna typing furiously away. I know what comes next is bound to be straight from her heart.
Madonna [1:56 PM]: i chose to live without men. here i am honestly falling for him. while he has some other person. i guess honesty isn’t important to him. I hadn’t heard from him in two days so i sent him a text and asked if he was okay. that’s when he said he was in emotional turmoil. and then he sent me the text about his ex. he wouldn’t return my calls. i literally started changing and believing i was in a relationship without him stating it.
Oh no…classic error!!!
Maureen [2:01 PM]: ughhhh. I am so sorry!
Madonna [2:01 PM]: i jumped off that relationship cliff and completely forgot to pack my parachute
Perfect visual! Madonna nailed it! That is exactly what happens! Love and relationships can be like free falling, but you can only fall so far before you reach back for the parachute strings….and when those strings are not there, well, there are few things worse than that….
I default to a solid man-hater comment.
Maureen [2:04 PM]: that sucks so much. investing in guys is such a freaking risk – you never know what you’ll get with them!
And Madonna throws back one of the most common coping mechanisms
Madonna [2:05 PM]: honestly i just want to go home…eat a gallon of ice cream…and watch sex and the city.
Maureen [2:05 PM]: haha – yeah, I’ve been there too
But she dwells only momentarily…..and boldly states
Madonna [2:06 PM]: whatever life is to short to cry over men
I stick him with one more man-hater thorn and then give her a little pearl of my own:
Maureen [2:06 PM]: no, this guy couldn’t have been worth it. he sounds like a total hack. Write on a post-it note “I will no longer consider dating emotionally unavailable men” and stick it to your bathroom mirror – there’s a daily affirmation for ya!
There’s a daily affirmation for ya!
Yeah, we all need our little affirmations. I like writing mine in dry erase marker on the bathroom mirror – post it notes get a little soggy and cluttered, especially with how many affirmations I have…
I will no longer consider dating emotionally unavailable men. I will take relationships at face value and not commit until I’m committed to. I will always believe in love, but hold it as the far off ideal that it is, instead of something I might scrape up off a bar stool. I will not listen to Taylor Swift. I will not read anything written by Nicholas Sparks – especially this book. I will not confuse sex with love. I will neither dwell in past heartbreaks, nor will I keep making the same mistakes over and over and over again.