Ok, I hope this is my last post about texting – but I need advice.
I’ll soon be announcing my official retirement from online dating. Pretty much the minute I figure out how to disable my OK Cupid profile, I’m done.
But there is one more person I am willing to meet. Or, was willing to meet…not sure anymore.
Here’s the issue. I gave him my number (got to stop doing that….)
For 2 weeks, he hasn’t made any attempt to meet up with me. Instead, he just sends casual text messages. Texting is not my favorite thing (as discussed in my previous post) especially if I don’t really know the person. But, I’m trying to be less neurotic in life in general and if that means accepting that my generation uses text messages to get from, “How r u?” to “Will u marry me?” well, I’m working on it…
Anyway, I feel like I’m being totally backburned right now. Like he has me simmering so that he can give me a quick stir and turn up the heat whenever he feels like it.
Personally, I do not like the idea of sitting on anyone’s backburner.
I ran my plan past a friend the other night. I said that the next time he texts me, I’ll write, “So, do you have any intention of asking me out? Because if not, you should just lose my number.”
She told me that might be a little….harsh. And suggested that I ask him out because he might be “shy.”
Now, I’m not sure what to do. On one hand, I don’t know if I support the idea of asking a guy out. Personally, I refuse to believe I’m very intimidating. If he doesn’t have the cajones to ask me out, he probably wouldn’t be able to hang with me. I need someone who can match me and challenge me and stand up to me (otherwise I turn into a bully.) So, if he hasn’t moved from texting to coffee because he’s shy – well, I doubt he’d be very happy with me.
On the flip side, my theory is he is keeping me on the backburner. And I should give him the “lose my number” line.
Any insights? Suggestions? Ideas? H-E-L-P!