An instant message popped up on my desktop at work: You kidding me?? That guy was definitely flirting with you. (you did botch it up a little) but he was still flirting. If a guy is not interested in you, he won’t talk you or ask any unnecessary questions. “Can I help you?” is a necessary question, “You all alone?” is flirting.
Then, he gives me some advice: It’s so simple…I do this all the time…Go back in there tell him you know nothing about fish and it was awful because you ruined it and need better advice (jokingly and nice!!!) Then, ask him if he wants to go out sometime and give him your number…If he never calls…no big deal…if he does. MUY BUENO!!!!
John Doe backed up his logic with this: …and you know he was definitly flirting with you because he gave his number out to your friend like a week later…he’s this lonely supermarket guy looking for a chance at someone!!
My retort: haha but he didn’t give ME his number
John Doe wasn’t ready to let it go though he told me that it didn’t matter: If you were being goofy or staring at fish for three years or whatever he may be skidish…guys HATE, HATE putting themselves out there…Guys also love women who take the initiative and remove and magic games/guess work out of the equations. Guys love the no games thing when they first meet.
I saw his logic – but I couldn’t fully agree. In my experience, being open, honest and direct doesn’t work. I decide to push a button and say: Ugh – but then they don’t appreciate you b/c they didn’t have to “chase” you down like a gazelle??
John Doe didn’t mince words: That is the dumbest shit ever….
I don’t take it personally and let him continue: and somehow you women all believe this….I can’t figure out for the life of me how any intelligent creature would think like that. Think for a second logically – would a lion rather sprint after a gazelle in 110 degree heat through a desert to eat a meat or would he rather the gazelle lay on the ground and give itself to the lion and the lion didn’t have to do shit to eat??? Ask yourself that…I hate playing games with women…the only reason why I do it, is because of necessity because that is how women are…Lions chase gazelles to eat because of necessity because that’s the way gazelles are…But if a gazelle doesn’t run and play games it dies…if a woman doesn’t play games, nothing happens and she just may pick up a sane and logical dude.
I Googled pictures of Lions and Gazelles – this one seems to sum them up:
I understand and appreciate John Doe’s advice. But it probably won’t change my actions at all. Not because he’s wrong but because I’m not a real game player. I’m pretty upfront and honest about my feelings. I’m not a real gazelle – I don’t go in for the chase. At the same time, I’m not a lion -I don’t do the chasing and I’m certainly not an aggressor – I’ve come back from a hunt empty-handed enough to know that I’d never make it as a lion.
I’m not sure exactly which safari animal I would be. Most days, I just feel like a sitting duck.